I believe that most of us have come to realize that our main problem dealing with financial, love, health issues, is a state of mind. Unfortunately all of us have had experiences in the past that have left a mental scar; because of these scars our confidence and belief in ourselves has changed. The best way to deal with these past issues is to confront them, learn from them, forgive yourself and move on.
There is absolutely nothing that can be done about past events, those should be looked at as a learning experience; draw from them the lessons needed and realize that it is no longer you. It takes guts to look at yourself in the mirror and let yourself know, that whatever happened in the past that changed your life, is gone, to never return. We need to concentrate on today and tomorrow.
Most importantly, live the moment; life is way too short to be walking around with the world on your shoulders. Realize that no one truly cares; if something was to happen to you today, the world will continue the same way, and you will be forgotten in a few days; so let go of the stupid stuff and start enjoying your life. Love yourself and those that surround you.
What’s Your Excuse?
What do you think of you?
This is the biggest hurdle that we need to learn to jump; our opinion of ourselves. Whatever it is that we think of ourselves, shows in our actions and the action with and towards others. People have learned to read others not only by their words but by actions, mannerism, and attitude. We cannot hide this, we cannot hide our feelings as well as we think we can; something will always give us away to the truth. The best way to make sure we send the correct signal to others is by learning to love ourselves. Realize that we are unique in this world, there isn’t another person like you, always keep that in mind.
It should not matter what the haters or gossipers think about us, but the right signal needs to be sent to those that can and are willing to help in our pursue of happiness. There are plenty of people that are willing to take a chance on someone with the correct attributes. Learn to believe in yourself, stop being afraid, what will be will be. Stop wasting your precious time on this planet on nonsense; learn to go for what is rightfully yours. We have to have lots of faith in what the universe has in store for us; imagine that you already have those things that you crave, feel it in your heart. The most important thing that needs to be done, is to LOVE ourselves. Just do it.
What’s Your Excuse?
What’s Stopping from Moving Forward?
It is a matter of belief; what do you think about yourself? what do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you see a warrior, champion, a go getter, or do you see a loser, a person with no ambition or dreams? What is your perception of you? Because regardless if its good or bad; that’s what it is. We are what we think about, whether you believe it or not. Don’t you think that is better to believe in something that can actually change your entire life, instead of going around with all that weight on your shoulders, worrying about something that may never materialize?
Instead, learn to see the world thru eyes of happiness and positiveness; learn to shed all the worrying and those bad thoughts that we have; this process is something that has to be learned; realize that this may be a part of what’s keeping you stuck. Learn to select the thoughts you want,,learn to have an imaginary person that is busy kicking the bad thoughts out of your head. It may seem funny, but trust me when I tell you that it works. Imagination is your greatest ally; imagine yourself as you wish you would be, maintain that thought, start acting as if you are already that person; the universe has no choice but to make it happen. You are like a radio antenna, sending and receiving, make sure that what you send out, if what you want to receive. Mind your thoughts and JUST DO IT.
Why do We Make Excuses?
This is a natural human response, believe it or not. Unfortunately, we care too much about what others may think about us and we want to fit in. Uncertainty, self-doubt and fear are natural emotions when contemplating change. Excuse making can be consider a conscious attempt to manipulate the emotions of others; we hate having others think ill of us, so we make up excuses for our wrongdoing or shortcomings.
There are other behaviors for which we make excuses for ourselves. Excuses in the form of denial or distortion are sometimes made to continue participating in the action that are self harming, such as smoking, drinking etc. People make excuses to avoid pain and responsibility; again, worrying too much about the opinion of others regarding ourselves.
Bottom line is that this type of behavior, besides becoming addictive, is also unhealthy because we start to feel guilty about all the excuse making that we start to doubt ourselves. Be honest with yourself and those that care about, the rest of the folks that may have a good or bad opinion of us, can go fly a kite.
What’s your Excuse?
Too Naive?
It’s been a while since I’ve written anything due to illness, what has changed for you since the last time you read What’s Your Excuse? The purpose of these writings is to try to open your mind to a new and achievable world. Your mind is the key to everything; the key that unlocks all of your potential and decides what your future will look like, it’s all in your mind.
I think that you know that according to research, humans only use about if their brain capacity; there is so much to learn, so much that we don’t know about the mind; the one thing we do know is that the average does not have interest or is aware about the weapon he has inside his head; are you average? I think not, otherwise you would not be reading this type of material. Deep down inside, you know, you are destined for a better life; you just have to find your center, you have not found that one thing that will click it all together; do not give up the search, eventually you will reach that point where everything will make sense.
What’s Your Excuse?
Cannot use your imagination?
Sit back and relax, make an attempt to form an image of a mirror in your head, make the mirror as big or small as you please; see the frame, give it color, see the designs on the frame, see it clearly; can you do that? Now, picture yourself in that mirror living the lifestyle that most of us crave; fill that mirror with the people you love, the house you want, take a deep breath of that fresh air, imagine the colors of that house, the blue of the water in your pool, the laughter of your kids having fun; listen to the birds sing. If you can maintain this picture in your mind for at least five minutes on a daily basis, it will at least provide you with that so much necessary peace of mind. Watch little by little as your life changes before your eyes.
We all need to learn to use our imagination to our advantage; our creative imagination is a gift that we seldom use to its full potential. Establish the habit of transporting yourself in your mind to that place that we desire; have the riches you deserve and enjoy those riches with your loved ones. Learn what motivates you, what drives you, and use your imagination to believe you already own those things you desire.
What’s Your Excuse?
Are you ordinary?
Success is not being extraordinary, success is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well. Poor thinking habits keep most people poor, It all depends on your attitude; What’s yours? You choose your attitude; you must send your emotions to school to learn values. Always use your past as a school and not to shape your future. With the proper attitude, you can get a clear picture of how you want your future to turn out. Do the best you can at all times, mediocrity should not be a part of your routines.
Always make demands of yourself and never let yourself off the hook. Start measuring your achievements as small as they may be, measure then and make sure to reward yourself for the achievements. Your subconscious will start believing in those rewards, and will make sure you are setting and accomplishing goals. Once you start setting goals, unconsciously, you will set the life style that you would like to have. Do not short change yourself, learn to dream big, the bigger the better.
Do you not believe?
The first thing we need to start doing is taking care of ourselves; visualize yourself having ultimate health; start dressing like a prospect and not a suspect. The hardest thing you will ever have to do, is to believe that God has a plan in store for you too; to believe that you too have the ability to create and live an amazing life. To believe.
Most people fail in life because of their lack of belief. Do not go through life just surviving. Do not be like some folks that realize 30 to 40 years down the road, that they have not lived their life; so busy working and taking care of everybody else, they forgot about themselves. What do you like to do? How about traveling? Perhaps visiting the pyramids, or visiting Paris.
We want you to refuse to die an unlived life. Always keep in mind that your mind is a machine, you must program it for success. There is a lot more in you than you have been expressing, believe that. Do me a favor, start listening to positive affirmations on a daily basis; it will help you to pause the negative charter that goes on in your head all the time.
Do you not believe?
The first thing we need to start doing is taking care of ourselves; visualize yourself having ultimate health; start dressing like a prospect and not a suspect. The hardest thing you will ever have to do, is to believe that God has a plan in store for you too; to believe that you too have the ability to create and live an amazing life. To believe.
Most people fail in life because of their lack of belief. Do not go through life just surviving. Do not be like some folks that realize 30 to 40 years down the road, that they have not lived their life; so busy working and taking care of everybody else, they forgot about themselves. What do you like to do? How about traveling? Perhaps visiting the pyramids, or visiting Paris.
We want you to refuse to die an unlived life. Always keep in mind that your mind is a machine, you must program it for success. There is a lot more in you than you have been expressing, believe that. Do me a favor, start listening to positive affirmations on a daily basis; it will help you to pause the negative charter that goes on in your head all the time
Do You Think you are Too Fat or Too Skinny?
I went over to a pool party over the weekend, there were lots of people enjoying themselves, lots of people in the swimming pool; there was a girl that should not wear a bikini, but was; She is to say the least a bit overweight and in my eyes the bikini did not do her justice; nevertheless, She was prancing around as if She was the ninth wonder of the world; I was truly impressed with her self-confidence. My has is off to her, She couldn’t care less what others thought about her, She was there to have a good time and that is exactly what She did. Kudos to her.
The point of this “what’s your excuse?” is to try to help others to open their eyes; virtue, most of the times, is in the eyes of the beholder. If you look at yourself and have nothing but happy thoughts. These feelings will propagate to others and people will look past the things that we could consider not normal, see the real you and treat you accordingly.
Do not let others opinion of you cloud what you already know, that you are an exceptional human being, you are created in the image of God, so there is nothing wrong or ugly about you. I am here to tell you that you are a worthy person, you are great, not two ways about it. You are You and no one can take that away from you. You are UNIQUE, act like it.
Don’t Have Enough Time?
If you don’t now, then when? what is it that you are doing different now, that will make a difference later? Be honest with yourself. The fact is that most of us will work the rest of our lives just to retire with limitations. Because, unless, you have put away a hefty nest egg, the social security benefits will not provide enough to lead a decent life. The time to act is NOW.
What should you do? Only you can answer that question; do not let others influence that decision. Do something that you know about and enjoy doing. That is the way to make a difference in your life and at the same time enjoy doing it. The important message here is that, the nine to five bit does not work for the majority, decide what else to do to create other income streams and JUST DO IT.
What’s Your Excuse?
Do you Lack Drive? Ambition?
We all go through the dilemma of being afraid of the unknown; we need to stop with the excuse making once and for all. Excuses are also a way to make you realize that you too can be creative. It takes effort and imagination to keep coming up with an excuse for this and for that. Think about it, the process that you have to go through to convince someone as to why you cannot do what has been assigned to you; you are managing to postpone taking the action that you know needs to be taken.
The motivation that you need to stop this old nasty habit of excuse making, is probably staring you in the face daily; do you have kids? a wife? or just someone that you truly care about; that is all you need to take that necessary leap to catapult you to the other side. The winning side; that side where you wish you were but have always avoided it for one reason or another. It is time to put all of those excuses behind and start taking chances to help you make that needed income. Just look around and find something that you are good at, start learning more details about it, get deeper knowledge and start sharing this knowledge with the world. Build it and they will come. Just do it.
Do you have bad habits?
Remember that you decide your habits and your habits decide your future. Everything that you do on a daily basis, is helping or hurting your chances for a better future. Decide to choose some good habits for once; get up early, show gratitude for the things you already have; believe it or not, this is a life changing habit. There are others that will definitely help, such as reading and exercising, those will help build that self-steem that needs a boost on most of us, but showing true gratitude will change your life. Just take a second to look around and you will realize all those things you need to be grateful for. Just the fact that you woke up this morning should make you thank God or whatever drives you. This is very strong.
Make a decision that TV and social media will take a second seat to reading and meditating; We know the amount of time that we spend watching silly programs that does not help our motivation at all; those habits will definitely need to be change if you want to make a difference in your future. Start thinking on a new product that you will develop, a new book that you will start writing, some new connections that will make with people that are where you wish you could be. Start realizing who you are at the moment and who you can become with a bit more knowledge and confidence. What is holding you back?
Magic happens when you believe in yourself. Our fear of others people’s opinions has become an irrational and unproductive obsession in the modern world, and its negative effects reach beyond performance. If you start paying less attention to what makes you, your talents, beliefs and values, you will harm your potential; do not play it safe because you are afraid of the criticism; the fear being ridicule or rejected will stop us in our tracks from reaching our potential. The desire to fit in and the paralyzing fear of being disliked will undermine your ability to pursue the lives you want to create.
Once you become aware of your fears, start guiding yourself towards confidence building statements; (I am good at this, I’ve done it enough times, I need to trust my abilities) These statements will help you focus on your skills and the abilities rather than other’s opinions. A deeper and stronger sense of who you are, needs to be developed. Creating a personal philosophy of who you are, can be an eye-opening and powerful exercise. You are the only that truly knows what makes you; nobody has ever or will ever walk in your shoes. You are worthy of everything. Shut out the noise and opinions of others and listen to your internal voice. More importantly, remember that growth and learning to take place when you are operating at your full capacity.
What’s Your Excuse?
